Thank you moustachio, for reassuring me im not the only one who thinks frigate spam and other things like it are strange and feel stupid to use.
I'll give you strange, though I wouldn't say stupid. If you win, you win. Lavo is a hardcore player and knows how to give you one until your eyes water (I'm told), I technically suck at the game and lose to hard AI 95% of the time (won a 3v3 today though, I'm getting better). But I have fun while I'm at it. I'm also a sucker for backstory and lore so I try and create situations which feel 'Halo-y'; hence my fixation on smaller fleet battles. It's just a damn shame the AI doesn't play ball all the time.
If you want to win. Follow Lavo's and people like him's advice. I would make no bones about that.